Why You Don’t Fit In With People

Is it weird to be obsessed with not fitting in? The question used to take up most of my brain, especially before my autism diagnosis. I had hostile feelings towards people who seemed happy being different, and spent a lot of time analysing and resenting people who effortlessly made friends and connections. I used to … Continue reading Why You Don’t Fit In With People

Are We Addicted To (The Idea Of) Love?

https://youtu.be/oQyFFTh_YGc Our culture valorises romantic love. Ask any asexual/aromantic person, it's impossible to escape from. Love as an ideal has changed over time, from dependable economic married love, to escapist adulterous passionate love, to the current version of individualistic romantic love. Love as a concept is constantly changing. Thanks to the internet, there's a growing awareness … Continue reading Are We Addicted To (The Idea Of) Love?

Tate Attack: When Carers Act As Security, We’re Turning People Into Monsters.

Trigger warning: discussion of disability-hate, autism discrimination, and violence by and against disabled people. Longer read than my normal posts. This week, autism's in the news. Unfortunately, it's attached to a violent young white man with murderous intent. Whilst the child victim faces agonising and slow recovery, from an attack intended to kill him, Jonty … Continue reading Tate Attack: When Carers Act As Security, We’re Turning People Into Monsters.

Do Joke Privileges Exist?

I propose we start acknowledging the privileges of hair-colour, handedness, parents, allergies and TV. The "Straight White Cis Male TM" is a cliche. I declare it's time for exciting new privileges instead! Let's get obscure, let's get myopic and disproportionate, let's get reactionary and ridiculous! I'll start... Being right-handed Not being ginger-haired. Having both parents, … Continue reading Do Joke Privileges Exist?

Confession: My Best Self Doesn’t Want to Eat The Rich

I started this week thinking how much I want to punch rich people in the face. I know, I know, that's not kind behaviour. It's angry and ugly. It's peak "tolerant left". Forgive me, okay? I'd just spent half an hour listening to a colleague talk about her fancy new car, her gorgeous holiday, and … Continue reading Confession: My Best Self Doesn’t Want to Eat The Rich

When Self-Care Feels Futile, Remember This

Trusting myself enough to build habits and build a life and care for myself isn’t easy or simple. It takes resolve and power that you might feel you never had. You might feel you never earned the right to decide that you matter and deserve to exist. That's an impossible argument; there’s no objective way … Continue reading When Self-Care Feels Futile, Remember This

I Avoid These 8 Things When Shopping Ethical

Quick post this week, I’m getting to be very busy! These are the main causes that I consider important when buying ethically: veganism - if a product involves animals, they are going to be extremely vulnerable to exploitation, whether it is meat, milk or egg. human trafficking - it's not well-known yet, but slavery is still … Continue reading I Avoid These 8 Things When Shopping Ethical

Why are Cyclists Hated for Choosing the Better Option?

Cycling is a dichotomy of chaos vs. righteousness. On one hand, cyclists are despised by cars and and pedestrians alike. They don’t follow the rules and they cause accidents and near-misses wherever they go. They ignore their own infrastructure and run riot over the roads. On the other hand, cycling is encouraged by environmentalists and … Continue reading Why are Cyclists Hated for Choosing the Better Option?

Kindness by a Thousand Messages

This is a post about Recovery, the self-care and mental health process. There is a parallel between pervasive social messages about equality and about self care. I think learning “self-justice” can be just as important as learning about justice for others. When I discovered Tumblr in my late teens, I discovered an abundance of both. … Continue reading Kindness by a Thousand Messages